• Darcel

      Thanks Juliana, I don’t always see myself as a very good mother. Doing the best I can with what I know and what I’ve got to work with.

  1. such a powerful post. as parents, we can sometimes be too focused on our kids fitting into a mold or meeting a standard and that comes from a place of not wanting your child to be left behind. so it takes a strong mama to buck the system and school her babies they way she knows is right

    • Darcel

      Exactly, no parent wants their child left behind. When we’re able to meet them where they are they won’t be left behind. For me doing that is a daily and moment by moment choice. Some days and moments I do great, other times I worry. I guess that’s part of being a mother. Thanks for your comment!

    • Khat Missig

      I like what you said! My 11 year old has dyslexia and for about five years, we’ve unschooled. Allowing him time to mature and develop without the stress of therapy and tutoring has made a difference. He is an excellent reader now although he does not pick up long books for fun. I don’t know when everything clicked into place last year but it did, with very little effort. He listened to many audio books and I think that helped. I’m amazed he can read so well…he is working on his writing now. I hope the same happens for yours. My point is, don’t worry. (something I have to remember as my daughter, 10, has autism and is also dyslexic) I loved your article!

      • Darcel

        Thanks for sharing that with me.
        My daughter has started to read and write more over the last several months. Like you said, something clicked. It’s been amazing to watch!

  2. Well done for having the courage to take your child out of school. In my opinion, schools don’t do enough for talented, Dyslexic kids. Dyslexia doesn;t mean inferior, it simply means different! I think the most important thing to distill in a child who has a learning DIFFERENCE is self-belief and confidence. Schools encourage children to mould themselves to a standard form, way of working and learning.I think if a kid has Dyslexia, he or she needs to be encouraged to let their Dyslexic TALENTS shine through, not be surpressed!

    I was diagnosed with Dyselxia only a year ago (age 22). I don’t have problems with letters, and I was so good at problem-solving that it seems I was a mastermind at hiding my different way of thinking and coping! But deep down I always knew that I thought differently- was a bit slower at conventional things and like your daughter, couldn’t compute simple facts. However, having recently realised the cause of many of my weaknesses, it has given me a new strength and confidence to be utterly myself, and to be proud of and use the strengths that come along with my Dyslexia. I wish someone had told me earlier that it was OK to think and learn differently. :)

  3. Liz

    I am a mom of 4 wonderful kids. My 10 year old son is Dyslexic, and I am thinking about pulling him out of school because he is shutting down, and hates learning. Any advice?

  4. Monica Issitt

    I would love to have an email chat about this! My son, 8, has dyslexia, dysgraphia, and some executive function issues. We are unschoolers but he goes to therapy twice a week. We still have a long row to hoe, and it is difficult for me to reconcile the two these days. He abhores therapy and I quite frankly resent the hell out of it most days, even though this is something I feel he needs. It is the one area where the Parent Decision is not up for discussion. It is not a comfortable dichotomy. Any input or suggestions or empathy? :-)

  5. Denise

    My son has severe dyslexia. I pulled him out of public school when he was in 2nd grade. We have never unschooled but we practice relaxed homeschooling. He was able to start reading and spelling better when we used workbooks that incorporated the Orton-Gillingham method. I know that unschoolers usually don’t like workbooks, but I thought I might mention it since it helped us out…just in case you wanted to purchase one and leave it lying around for your daughter to find. :) My son’s reading started coming together at age 9. He is just now, at age 12, starting to read with a good amount of fluidity and tries to read signs wherever we go. He is still not fascinated with books.

    But my dad has dyslexia and wasn’t able to read at all until he was 13 years old. Though he was afraid he wouldn’t, he did eventually learn to read. He attended the public school system during the 1950s and 1960s. What he was taught in class never helped him, but he eventually figured out how to read on his own. He managed to graduate high school and then eventually made it to college. He got a degree in animal husbandry and worked with animals hands-on for 40 years. My dad’s self-esteem is not very high. He puts himself down and says he is not very smart. I often wonder if it is partly due to how much he was demoralized during his childhood. Anyway, I think it’s great that you are trying to focus on all of the positives with your daughter. That’s wonderful!

    • Darcel

      Ha! Thanks for taking the time to read through, I’m glad you’re enjoying it. I will definitely look into the book you suggested. I’m all for books that talk about Dyslexia in a positive way.

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