You read that right. This is a Single Mom’s Guide To Not Getting It All Done.
There are not enough hours in the day and if we had extra hours we still couldn’t get everything done.
Lately I’ve had several people ask me how I “get it all done” or they want to know how I keep all those balls in the air. I don’t.
If I got it all done I would be more exhausted than I am now!
Right now in this moment I am feeling overwhelmed. I have a guest post due today. Girl scouts is this week and it’s cookie season.
I’m trying to get these body wraps on as many people as possible. I have a few new things to add to my etsy store, but haven’t been able to get pictures of them up.
I need to make Dentist appointments for the kids because we are three months past due for their six month cleaning.
I’m putting together a ‘Hire Me’ page to display all of my many talents(I’m laughing as I type that) I do have a few things I’m pretty good at…so why not?
My email inbox is overflowing and looking at it makes me anxious.
The apartment isn’t as clean as I would like it to be. There are no dishes in the sink at the moment, so I’ll consider that a win.
Our place is small and I can pick it up quickly, but that also means it doesn’t take much for the place to look like three little tornadoes went through it after about 5 minutes.
Then there is the daily care and keeping of myself and my children.
Oh, and our homeschool co-op is starting up again for the semester.
I’ll be teaching two classes again and need to get my lesson plans together.
I don’t know any mom who gets it all done, and I definitely don’t know any single moms that get it all done.
Give yourself some grace and let the housework slide for a day. Catch up on laundry later – it’s not going anywhere. Go to bed with dishes in the sink, have a do nothing day and enjoy spending time with your kids. Can’t do an entire day? Set a timer for a ‘do nothing block of time’ during the day.
Stop saying yes to people. Say no to things you don’t want to do or have time for.
Maybe you’ll be able to say yes later and if you can’t…. it is ok.
Change or lower your expectations for your kids and yourself.
You will be able to breathe a little easier and focus better on the things that really matter.
Samuel has been very clingy lately – he’s going through this phase where he needs to be up under me all.the.time. Some of you who know us are probably laughing and thinking” isn’t he under you all the time anyway?” He is usually this way when we’re out but lately it’s been at home. I think it’s a blessing in disguise because if he didn’t sleep on me like he does, I would probably be going non-stop. I’ll take a little relaxing when and where I can get it!
I am so blessed and thankful to have people in my life who believe in me when I don’t believe in myself. I’m thankful for late night phone calls with my best friend, and midday phone calls with my other best friend. I’m so happy we can send a text or two just to say “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you. What’s going on in your life right now?”
My dad is always there for me – watching the kids two Saturdays in a row for a few hours.
If I don’t take proper care of myself(I’m getting batter at this)then I won’t be able to take care of the kids to the best of my ability.
I don’t get enough sleep and I’ve just accepted that. That’s a part of my life right now. Since I’m not getting enough sleep then I have to find ways to boost my energy levels.
We have two playlists on YouTube that have been getting a lot of use lately.
I can sing and dance to the music. I’m drinking more water, cutting back on my sugar intake.
If you are a single mom, if you know someone who is, if you’re about to become one – a support network is a must. You cannot do this on your own and you shouldn’t have to. It doesn’t have to be a group of 20 people. Having two people in your corner who believe in you, who you can’t vent and cry to makes a world of difference. Those same people will be there for you when you need to share the good stuff.
There will be days and moments where you’ll feel like super single mom. Dinner will be ready on time, the house will be clean, bills paid, kids are getting alone, life is just great. Enjoy days like this because they are rare.
There will also be days where you can’t catch your breath, you feel anxious and overwhelmed. There will be days where you sit and wonder how the bills will get paid, dinner will be very late, the kids are fighting, and you won’t be able to figure out where to start first. Sometimes it’s so bad it feels like the days and weeks are blurred together.
There is no one to help, no one to take the kids for a few hours, no sleep, no every other weekend. It’s all on you. These will be the times where you may want to fall apart because it feels like you can’t take it anymore. You might be like me and have a good cry in the bathroom while the kids play. Maybe you can call a friend and say “I don’t know what I’m going to do” Maybe this is where those playlists come in handy.
Do what’s most important – everything else can wait.
Believe that things will get better and remember that you are one person doing the best she can in her current situation.