Whispers Through Time: Book Review & Giveaway

SeeSpeakHearMama, You are the winner of Whispers Through Time!


It’s been a while since I’ve read any parenting book cover to cover. I’ve picked up several in the past few months and would flip through them, read a page or two, and put it away. Not this time!  I was so excited when I asked L. R. Knost if I could review her book Whispers Through Time: Communication Through The Ages & Stages of Childhood, and she said yes. Each time I set down to read, I felt like I was sitting down with a friend over coffee, chatting about motherhood and parenting.  L. R. Knost has knocked it out of the park with this one.

In every way, the parent/ child relationship reflects the parents’ mindset, whether that be kind, empathetic, and responsive; or distant, disconnected, and austere; or harsh, controlling, and punitive. Parents choose, day in and day out, the kind of home environment in which their children will grow up. Parents decide, every day, how their children will view the world. And parents impact, over and over again, who their children will grow up to be.

Knost, L.R.  Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood (A Little Hearts Handbook) (p. 2).

You would think after parenting for eight years my first reaction would be to respond with patience and understanding, but I am constantly fighting against reacting without thinking. One of the things I really enjoy about this book is how I never felt like I was being preached at by a parenting expert, or that I was being shamed for not being the perfect parent. I love the in-depth explanations  for the child’s behavior through each stage of life. I’m the type of person who needs to understand the why before I feel I can use the solution properly. I feel the why is explained beautifully throughout the entire book.

It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.

Knost, L.R.  Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood (A Little Hearts Handbook) (p. 2).

I envy people who were raised in a house where there was no yelling, no spanking, no emotional abuse. Most of us parent the way we were raised. If we were broken as children, we grew up to be broken adults, and we most likely tried to break our children. It may not have been intentional, but it happened. I may not be where I want to be in my mothering journey, but I’ve come a loooooong way from where I started out. We do better when we know better.

Here’s the thing, if you call a child a liar often enough, they will become deceptive. If you treat a child like they are manipulating you often enough, they will become conniving. If you label a child a spoiled brat, they will become impudent and rebellious.

By the same token, if you treat a child like a priceless gift, handling them with care and respect, they will grow up valuing themselves and others.

Parents, your relationship with your teenager is being established now, while your child is still a toddler. Your discipline issues with your nine-year-old are being minimized or intensified right now, while he is reaching out to you in infancy. Preschooler’s tantrums are being moderated or exacerbated at this moment by your response or lack of response to your baby’s cries.

So, who are you raising, parents? An innocent child or a cunning manipulator? It’s vital that you decide, because your perception of who your child is and what motivates them will influence not only your attitude toward your child, but your response to your child as well. Remember, who you think you are raising is who you will raise!

Knost, L.R. (2013-06-06). Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood (p. 16).

Those are powerful words right there. I read a quote not too long ago that says “I try to parent my children the way I want them to parent my grandchildren”
The above statements echo that. People can say that the way we parent our children doesn’t matter, but it does. We may not leave physical scars, but it’s the ones we can’t see that end up doing the most damage.

I need gentle reminders now and then to keep me on this path and I’m thankful for a supportive community of friends, and those who blog, and write books about this  parenting journey. This book is not about punishments and rewards. It is not about laying out every situation possible and then giving you step by step instructions on how to fix your child. This book is about loving and respecting our children, our perception of them, their hearts. Understanding how we can respond in a way that will connect with them and meet them where they are.

We all need a little help from time to time….so you know I’m happy to be able to offer one of you the chance to win this amazing, down to earth, and heartfelt book.

All you need to do is leave a comment. Please make sure your email is included (only visible to me) so I can contact you to notify you when you win and get your mailing address.
The comments will close on July 6th at midnight and a winner will be chosen.
If you can’t or don’t want to wait to see if you win, you can purchase Whispers Through Time: Communication Through The Ages and Stages of Childhood for only $7.19 Paperback and $3.99 for the Kindle edition.

**If you purchase this book through the amazon link I will be compensated a small amount. 






Best-selling parenting and children’s book author, L.R. Knost, is an independent child development researcher and founder and director of the advocacy and consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources. A mother of six, her children range from 25-years down to 25-months-old. Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages and Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood are the first in her Little Hearts Handbooks series of parenting guides. The next book in the series, The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline is due to be released November 2013. Other works by this award-winning author include the children’s picture booksA Walk in the CloudsPetey’s Listening Ears, and the soon-to-be-released Grumpykins series for ages 2 to 6, which are humorous and engaging tools for parents, teachers, and caregivers to use in implementing gentle parenting techniques in their homes and schools.